The Responsive Classroom approach incorporates several principles of child development that parents can follow with their children at home:
1) Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic
Intrinsic motivation, developed within the child, is always more compelling and long lasting than extrinsic motivation developed by others. The use of tangible rewards tends to work against the development of intrinsic motivation.2) Responsibility Must Be Taught
If children are expected to learn to be responsible, they must be taught how, given a chance to practice, and ultimately, given the opportunity to succeed, or fail.3) Rule Creation with 3 R’s
A key to proactive discipline at school or at home is the creation of rules and expectations with children and the modeling and practice of the behaviors necessary to respect rules and reach expectations. In cases where children forget, reminding and redirecting are two important actions4) Positive Language
Careful use of language can make a difference in the ways children respond. Often teachers and parents just use too many words. Keep it simple and direct.5) Interactive Modeling AND Subtle Modeling
As adults, some of our modeling is direct and intentional as we explicitly demonstrate an expected behavior. But such intentional modeling represents only a small percentage of the modeling of behavior we do for our children. We need to be sure that our subtle modeling supports what we expect of our children.
6) Logical Consequences
In academics and behavior, in school and at home, the RC approach uses natural and logical consequences for a failure to follow rules or meet expectations. An example of a natural consequence in school would be that if a child fails to bring in a suit and towel for swimming, they would not swim. Logical consequences should be respectful, realistic and relate to the offense.